Victim or Victor?

Life can often throw us a curve ball. It’s true that bad things happen to good people, but in reality bad things happen to all people. So why is it that some people are able to rise above bad circumstance while others are overwhelmed by them? Well, the answer is all in our response to what happens. Now I understand there are some terrible things that can happen that bring more pain and sorrow then any person should encounter. For the purpose of this post, I am not addressing devastating circumstances, just everyday difficult ones. In light of these type of circumstances, we can respond in one of two ways: 1. As a victim. 2. As a victor. Here’s a quick comparison of these two responses:


  • Focus is always on the past.
  • Will often miss the roses right in front of them because they’re searching for the thorns.
  • Failure is a near guarantee because they close their eyes to the possibility of success and anticipate eventual disaster.
  • Although this person can be very talented, their talent is neutralized by their lack of confidence.


  • Focus is always on the future.
  • Even in the worst of situations, they always seem to find the light at the end of the tunnel.
  • Failure is not an option for this person. The hope they possess is too great to settle for what is, to miss out on what could be.
  • Although this person may be very talented, their greatest attribute is their perseverance in the face of adversity.

At one time or another, we can all fall into one of these two categories. The first can be such a destructive perspective on life and leadership. If you find yourself always taking the role of a victim, let me challenge you with this thought: Although life might be tough and seem unfair at times, remember you are still given the choice of how you will respond. I believe that how you respond to difficult circumstances will actually impact your success in life more then the skills or abilities you possess. So regardless of what is happening to you today, keep your head up. Take the role of a victor and rise above!

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