One of the misconceptions of those that are unmarried and in ministry (or out of ministry for that matter) is that singleness is a cause of immaturity. Although, there may be times when this is true, it is the exception rather then the rule.
Let me challenge you with this thought: Maturity is the result of a process and not a specific event. How this relates to our conversation here is that the event of marriage is not necessarily a sign of maturity. Maturity is developed, it does not just happen.
With that said, a single person in ministry should be just as mature as one which is married. Although some of their experiences may be different, they have both had the opportunity to work through the muck and mire of life and to emerge on the other side stronger and more mature.
I can not agree with you more friend! This has been a huge struggle for me as well!! All of the misconceptions about my singleness and ministry in the church, its been a bit challenging! You are so right!! Thanks for writing about this friend!!
I don’t know what the deal is with your blogs and me but they resonate. There was nothing worse than getting “he’s single and 20. What more can you expect?” rap. That drove me nuts. I did enjoy proving people wrong though…
Thanks guys! I really think this is understated in the American church. We can often talk about inclusion and the need for diversity, but when it comes to a single minister we can run the risk of treating them almost as second class. I’d be interested to hear, any thoughts you guys would add?